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Who is this guy?

[Originally posted on 7/14/13 on another host.]

Some basic introductory facts, for context:

Who am I?

I’m a 40-something white male. I live in a medium-sized city in the midwest (USA). I’m divorced and have been for a few years now.

My life is generally pretty stable; I’m well educated and I have a decent job. I’m a pretty “normal” white-collar kind of guy.

I’m healthy and (at least reasonably) fit. I exercise, but probably not as much as I should; I wouldn’t mind losing ten pounds or so, but I definitely don’t consider myself to be fat. I think I look better than average for my age; I’ve been told that, at least. I’m not vain about it, though. I certainly know I’m not male model material.

What do I like?

I’ve always had a pretty high sex drive, and my tastes have always tended toward the non-vanilla (I use “vanilla” here to include any sexual activity involving one man and one woman and no other person in any way). As long as I can remember, my fantasies have mainly revolved around group sex, voyeurism, and (of course) exhibitionism.

Up until a couple of years ago, my sexual experiences had been 100% straight (and 100% vanilla too). I considered myself to be “bi-curious,” but I’d never done anything more than fantasize about it. Since my divorce, though, I’ve had, and enjoyed, some male-to-male contact. Does that make me “bi”? I guess. I call myself that in some situations, for simplicity’s sake. I don’t care too much, actually. I like what I like, regardless of what label anyone wants to put on it.

Whether I’m “bi” or “bi-flexible” or whatever, I know this: I’m not 100% straight, obviously, but I’m far more sexually attracted to females than males. I do occasionally enjoy some sexual contact with males (especially if there’s a female involved too). That fact notwithstanding, I can’t imagine myself ever being in a relationship or falling in love with a man. You’re welcome to call that orientation whatever you like.

What have I done?

As I said, I’m divorced. I was married for a long time. Whatever things my ex-wife and I had going for us, sexual compatibility certainly wasn’t one of them. My drive was way higher than hers. She was completely opposed to any non-vanilla activity; we were married long enough that we certainly discussed it. (To her credit, though, she did have some real positive points. She was hot—and we all know that’s not nothing. She was down for pretty much anything I wanted to do, as long as it was just us. She gave great head, and the absolute best hand jobs I’ve ever had.)

After we broke up, I started exploring some of the activities I’d fantasized about for so long. The first non-vanilla sex I had was with a married couple. The wife was very attractive. They were into a very specific kind of thing. The guy never directly participated at all; I never even saw him undressed. They wanted her to be totally submissive to me, and he liked to tell me what to do to her. It was pretty awesome.

Since that first experience, I’ve been with a handful of other couples. In subsequent cases, the man has participated at least some, up to and including “anything (except anal) goes” MMF threesomes.

Last year, I dated a woman for a while who was open to trying some group and v/e stuff. We did a lot of things. We started by getting together with guys (one at a time), not for threesomes, but strictly for the guest to watch us. Usually the way it would play out is that she and I would fool around with the guy right beside us, watching and jerking off. We had some really nice experiences.

She and I also had some foursomes with a married couple. These were certainly the best sexual experiences I ever had. We were “soft swap” friends. We didn’t fuck each other’s partners, but everybody went down on everybody else (except for the two guys; I certainly would have, but he was pretty straight).

Finally, the last category of experience I’ve had involves a few “JO buddies.” I like to masturbate, and given a choice, I’d always prefer to have someone watch me when I do it. Every few weeks or so, I like to get together with a buddy and do just that. Usually, there’s a little bit of stroking each other involved, but we mainly take care of ourselves.

That’s it in a nutshell! I’ve had several different kinds of MMF threesomes, some exhibitionist sessions with a former girlfriend, some foursomes (with the same woman), and some JO sessions.

What’s going on right now?

Right now, I’m essentially single, though I have been casually dating (and occasionally sleeping with) one woman for a few weeks. I’m sure I’ll talk about her later. We’re not really officially “a couple” right now and I have no idea where that will end up going. On the group front, there’s one married couple I’ve had sex with a couple of times (as recently as a couple of weeks ago) and I certainly hope to do so again, but one never knows when these things will fizzle out; they always seem to have a limited shelf life. And, I have a couple of buddies I like to jerk off with, but it’s been a few weeks on that as well.

So, with that as the backdrop, stay tuned! Whatever happens going forward, I will document here.

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Posted on Saturday, July 27 2013. Tagged with: intro
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